Luke 14:28-30   For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?  Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him,  Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.

Proverbs 11:14   Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.

Proverbs 24:6  For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety

When I began the journey of home schooling 15 years ago, a friend and veteran home-school mom gave me some advice that has literally directed the intentions of my home schooling decisions. She said, “Guard your time.”  She went on to explain that many outside of the home school commitment assume that now you are ‘at home,’ you must have more time on your hands. You should be available for service projects and their ‘emergency‘ errands. You probably look forward to unexpected drop-in visitors and can spontaneously drop-everything and participate in trips away from home. She suggested that I not be afraid to be protective of your daily routine.

As the years passed, I witnessed these interactions myself and realized what sage advice it was. It was so easy for well-meaning people to presume on my schedule. Some were even offended because I had to set boundaries for “school.”  After all, wasn’t ‘freedom‘ the advantage of home schooling?! They simply misunderstood the whole process we were undertaking.

To be sure, as a home school family, we do have flexibility and can take advantage of scheduling shifts that a structured, traditional classroom full of students cannot. For me, however, I could build the ‘freedom and flexibility‘ into the schedule. Furthermore, when those truly delightful but spontaneous opportunities presented themselves or when the true-life emergency happened on us, panic and anxiety didn’t overshadow our decisions. Due to a little intentional time management, what wasn’t finished today could be finished tomorrow. Finally, as my children have grown older and their subjects have become more demanding, they appreciate and rely on the consistency of our schedule.

I am so grateful that my friend gave me that counsel early in my venture. It not only guided my routine, but it gave me the confidence to do it guilt-free. Knowing that other families face the same struggle and interruptions relieved me of the pressure to be everything for everyone. My kids weren’t ‘missing out on the joys‘ of home schooling; rather, the organization and routine has taught them some valuable life-skills lessons in boundaries, time-management and prioritizing.



Psalm 18:28-29  For thou wilt light my candle: the LORD my God will enlighten my darkness.  For by thee I have run through a troop; and by my God have I leaped over a wall.

Not long ago, I sat with a dear group of home school moms. They were discussing their varied and poignant decisions regarding home schooling for their particular families. One mom of four had decided to send her oldest to the local public school.  She said it was working out well because it was a small rural district still responding to family values.  Another mom shared that her college age daughter was glad she had not chosen the PSEO option (now renamed CCP) because she was happily immersed in her introductory college classes and gleaning from the experience. Still another mom questioned what her direction for her two children might be because her over-achieving  daughter wanted to graduate early while her under-achieving son needed some strong outside encouragement. Our experiences were as different as our fingerprints. It was obvious that one answer (or one simple plan) could not meet all the distinct and complex appeals of our families.

Over the last fifteen years, I have observed…

…One mother tries the public school option at her child’s request and regrets it; another mom finds it rewarding and just what the family needed.

…One mother helps her child choose the PSEO (aka: CCP) option and watches her daughter graduate high school with a college associate’s degree.  Another mom redirects her daughter away from the option because it will not save her any time for her particular degree.

…One mother decides to enroll her home school student in part-time Christian school and the following year enrolls her full-time. It is right for the family. Another mom tries part-time enrollment and questions the advantage or the worth of it.

…One family chooses E-school to increase the accountability and integrity at home. The next family settles on independent, traditional home schooling to increase productivity and flexibility.

…One family may opt for a one-day co-op, another for a two-day program and another for a three-day academy. Still another family may choose to avoid the extra programs altogether to focus on their family’s extracurricular talents.

In the end, we realize there simply is not just one way to do home schooling. Special needs for the gifted and challenged, home dynamics, financial changes, and interpersonal rivalries all contribute to the direction our families take.  The paths and options we choose reflect how different our families, our circumstances and our individual children are.

Sometimes it is difficult to redirect our family’s course when the need arises because we are comfortable in our patterns.  We have come to rely on our friends’ help to connect us to our original goals.  However, when the demands of our family reach beyond our current arrangement, we do them a disservice not to respond.  Home schooling only works when all the parts are moving. If one of those parts gets “stuck” or even “off-balance” we have to consider an adjustment. There are many needs in home schooling.   It may be unrealistic to think we can complete the home school plan like our neighbor or our brother did it.  It may be unfair to think we will school every child in the same way.

One size does not fit all when it comes to home schooling. We may need an adjustment or a helping hand from time to time to keep us on track with our objectives and our end goal.  It is encouraging to know there are so many options from which we can choose.   It is a tremendous blessing to know we have a choice.

If your family is needing a home school  adjustment, our Helping Hands Home School Program may be the extra assistance you are looking for. Check us out.


Isaiah 45:8

“Drop down, ye heavens, from above, and let the skies pour down righteousness: let the earth open, and let them bring forth salvation, and let righteousness spring up together…”

In a time when the leaders of society judge moral absolutes as politically incorrect and the moral compass of our media seems to be teetering on magnetic reversal, Christian parents and educators struggle to find a way to preserve the remnants of a Godly generation.

Middletown Christian School stands as a lifeline for families who have fought the pressures of public education and chosen an alternative to the status quo.

In the last few decades, home schooling has created yet another option for parents who choose to question the objectives within educational systems.

Both options have tremendous benefits and advantages. Both hope to strengthen the family unit and provide inspiration for a future that is vacillating on a precipice of history-making changes. GBC and MCS would like to support the two communities of parents that want more for their children and have chosen to give their children direction through one avenue or another of Christian education.

In the next few months, the leadership of the church and the school directors will be exploring how we can bring these two important communities together. We want to embrace the strengths that have endeared Middletown Christian Schools’ graduates to the institution and share that stability with the families that have opted to take on the challenge of schooling outside of the traditional classroom. We want to encourage the creativity and energy of the home schooling community and learn from their successes as well. Together, we believe we can fortify both communities of believers that are hoping to educate their families beyond the secular influences of our current society.

That vision, and hope, brings us to my new role at MCS. As Home School Coordinator, I will be reaching out to both communities of parents and teachers.  Before children came to bless our home, I taught in a traditional classroom much like the ones gracing the halls at MCS. I tutored children from Christian schools and public schools while attending to my young family. Once my children began elementary school, I chose the option of home schooling. My children and I are currently members of a vibrant home school co-op where I teach an elementary Handwriting class and a high school level English Lit class. My personal journey straddles the Christian school and the home school.  I hope to bring the appreciation of Christian education in both worlds to the role of Home School Coordinator. I will strive to infuse a balance of understanding on both sides of the equation. In addition, I consider it a privilege to be an alumnus of MCS.  The success of the program for each relationship is personal to me.

Each community represents a choice of educational options. Those reasons for choice are vast and sometimes forged with a tremendous amount of conviction. Both communities for the Christian family, however, encircle the same objective…”Train up a child in the way he should go.”  It is in the unity of this connection that we seek to bring the communities together.

We do not wish to change the direction or focus of Middletown Christian Schools. We merely hope to draw on her strengths.

We do not expect to alter the vision or advantages of home schooling. We only want to embrace your uniqueness and support your efforts.

Some say it can’t be done. Others may question the validity of the effort. We believe if we can unite the two communities in their purpose, we will have strengthened the community and our churches as a whole.

We have the same purpose….to educate our children in a Godly way.

We want the same results…to prepare Godly young adults that can spring into the future successfully like arrows with a Godly influence for the next generation.

We have the same hope…that God be glorified in all that we do.

Why couldn’t we do it together?

The task is set before us and we are embracing the challenge.